When people are confronted with ideas that challenge long-held beliefs, they will naturally become defensive. That has little to do with you and everything to do with the world that has shaped their perspective. So be patient, but be YOU. Put your peace of mind and contentment first.
Be happy and be the best person you can be. Sometimes, when you let go and let others observe you, they will shape their opinions based on you. Sometimes the silence speaks volumes.
I knew I was different ever since I was young, there was no one to talk to so I kept everything to myself.
I would always think, “What’s so different about me?” Am I doing something wrong? Why can’t I just have it easy like the other girls? What would my people say? Would they be angry? Upset? Uncomfortable? These questions stab at you because you just don’t understand what’s wrong—initially. You know what’s different about you, but you deny it to yourself, thinking all the while: this can’t happen to me, this is unnatural. It’s unnatural because you’ve grown up in a hetero-normative environment where you aren’t exposed to it, in mainstream media, or in person It can come by way of accepting oneself or by someone’s support in helping you deal with it, and finally coming out to yourself. For me it happened through a web series called “The other love story” through which i came came to know about “The L Word ” and ” Lesfan” after watching it for the first time i felt “No i was not wrong there are people like me and that is when i finally felt liberated and free. But the fear is still in my heart. The fear of how my friends will react, of how my family will react, will they still accept me? Will I be an outcast? But one thing is for sure, this is what I am inherently and truly —and always will be. It’s not a choice. It was never a choice. It’s a part of me. Like in most conservative families, there came a time when my aunt started looking out for suitors to take my hand in marriage. Just when I had run out of excuses to ‘reject’ yet another candidate I came out to her this was the first time she heard the word lesbian and women loves other women she was shell shocked and she started crying and she thinks I need a doctor and it will be cured. Yesterday I called my sister and said everything to her. She told me 2 things: 1. When she was in college she had feelings towards her friend but she overcame those feelings and now she is happy with her husband and children. So if I try, I can even come out of those feelings. 2. Move to a country like the USA or Canada where you are more accepted. Now what should I do?
I hope it went well for you!
How did it go ?
No, it didn’t go well. It was a disaster. How should I explain its not a phase its not a disease and im not influenced and this is what IAM
So sorry to hear that ! if that’s any consolation, you have a family here ;)
When people are confronted with ideas that challenge long-held beliefs, they will naturally become defensive. That has little to do with you and everything to do with the world that has shaped their perspective. So be patient, but be YOU. Put your peace of mind and contentment first.
Be happy and be the best person you can be. Sometimes, when you let go and let others observe you, they will shape their opinions based on you. Sometimes the silence speaks volumes.
You may not be able to explain it in a way that makes sense for her.
Thank you Bibi28, izzie, MoreThanSatisfied for your kind words
I knew I was different ever since I was young, there was no one to talk to so I kept everything to myself.
I would always think, “What’s so different about me?” Am I doing something wrong? Why can’t I just have it easy like the other girls? What would my people say? Would they be angry? Upset? Uncomfortable? These questions stab at you because you just don’t understand what’s wrong—initially. You know what’s different about you, but you deny it to yourself, thinking all the while: this can’t happen to me, this is unnatural. It’s unnatural because you’ve grown up in a hetero-normative environment where you aren’t exposed to it, in mainstream media, or in person It can come by way of accepting oneself or by someone’s support in helping you deal with it, and finally coming out to yourself. For me it happened through a web series called “The other love story” through which i came came to know about “The L Word ” and ” Lesfan” after watching it for the first time i felt “No i was not wrong there are people like me and that is when i finally felt liberated and free. But the fear is still in my heart. The fear of how my friends will react, of how my family will react, will they still accept me? Will I be an outcast? But one thing is for sure, this is what I am inherently and truly —and always will be. It’s not a choice. It was never a choice. It’s a part of me. Like in most conservative families, there came a time when my aunt started looking out for suitors to take my hand in marriage. Just when I had run out of excuses to ‘reject’ yet another candidate I came out to her this was the first time she heard the word lesbian and women loves other women she was shell shocked and she started crying and she thinks I need a doctor and it will be cured. Yesterday I called my sister and said everything to her. She told me 2 things: 1. When she was in college she had feelings towards her friend but she overcame those feelings and now she is happy with her husband and children. So if I try, I can even come out of those feelings. 2. Move to a country like the USA or Canada where you are more accepted. Now what should I do?