April 21, 2016 at 12:02 pm #93326
my gf who i love more then life asked me to take some time off, it bother her the fact i earn 5 times more then her. i never mention money or care about it, whats mine is hers but she feels like she is not Equal or worth. i have Phd in economy (Business Consultant) and she is into art (love that about her)
April 21, 2016 at 8:18 pm #93330
Give her the space she needs. The more you resist, the more likely it will be a permanent thing. Focus on the positive … she’s asking for time off, not a breakup.
Do stuff for yourself in the time you have. Spend time with friends and do fun things you enjoy so that you don’t sit around focused on her. Read fanfic, too :-)
Hang in there. We’re here for you!
April 22, 2016 at 1:32 am #93341
its beyond hard, i feel like someone took the air out of me. my friend said i need tyo date other girls to make her jealous, i told her that she has no idea how much i love her.
i didnt text her or anything, she does.
at least its a holiday week in israel so i have a whole week free from work.
April 22, 2016 at 7:37 am #93344
Don’t sit around that whole week feeling badly for yourself, worrying about what she’s doing, or worse, contacting her. GET OUTDOORS and do things.
Do not suffocate her. Worst thing you could do.
April 22, 2016 at 9:09 am #93346
i havent text her just reply to her msgs. all i do is spend time with my fanmily, meeting friends and watch tv.
but gosh a part of me is missing
April 23, 2016 at 3:02 am #93351
I get it. Can’t eat; can’t sleep; knocked off of your cat bird seat; suspended in time and space; going round and round in circles, it feels like.
At one point I read a book about Physics (don’t ask), and there was a line in it that explained everything I was experiencing. Yes, physics, as dispassionate a science as there is out there. Not poetry, not art, not literature. Physics.
Unfortunately, I can’t remember it word for word, but, roughly, the line referred to the fact that, it is a fundamental law of nature that things move in circles. Planets, moons, galaxies, the ocean, currents, tornadoes, commodities traded in the commodities market … and yes, the human heart. Your fate, my fate, her fate — at some point, everything will come full circle.
I imagined a scene of my ex, (“trust me, there’ll be nobody like you ever for me, but…”) without me, so many years later, where, after she’d been circling ’round me, but never landing, and building momentum, until she finally decides to make her move.
And where was I in that scene? At first I didn’t know.
One early morning, while out on a long run, I understood and accepted that
there would never be an ending in that scene wherein I’d be waiting for her to decide.
It’s her loss, girl. You’ll go around in circles at first, and then you Have to move on.
April 23, 2016 at 4:41 am #93352
her friend text me, asked me what happened because she is depressed and refuse to do anything beyond sleep so i told her in general.
we were both straight before we met, i dated and slept with men and was attracted to them only.
she had a boyfriends when we meet, she like me never found any women attracted and nothing happened between us until she broke up with him and when i say nothing i mean not even hold her hand.
no idea how life change, a few months ago i was a straight girl and boom i fell hard for a women.
maybe we need a couple counseling?
i just cant stand the thought of her being sad all day
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