“I’m just trying to understand it. I’m not saying that I don’t date different people and I’ve had my share of casual relationships and one night stands but I just can’t see how I could be in a steady relationship with one person and be with other people at the same time. It would feel like I was cheating on my steady relationship.”

“It would be cheating if you were hiding it and doing it behind her back but Eric and I have an agreement. It’s not like I sleep around and have multiple partners. Eric and I met two years ago. He’s one of the attorneys for Shaolin and we worked together on buying the rights for a book that we wanted to make a movie out of. ”

“I thought you didn’t date people you work with?”

“He was an exception and besides we didn’t start dating until after we closed the deal so technically I wasn’t working with him at the time. He’s very handsome and charming and we found that we were attracted to each other. First it was casual then it got more serious; at least for him. About a year into the relationship he asked me to marry him. I love Eric but I’m not in love with him. When I look at him I don’t see my future partner. I didn’t want to get married and settle down and have children; which is what he wanted. I said no to his proposal. I was ready to break off the relationship altogether because it wasn’t fair to string him along knowing it wasn’t going anywhere. He said he didn’t want to lose me and he didn’t want to break up even after I told him I wanted to see other people. He still wanted us to stay together. We are more friends than anything else. We sleep together occasionally. I accompany him to business dinners and he accompanies me to movie premiers and award shows and things like that. We go out on dates and we enjoy spending time together. We have an agreement that if either one of us meets someone that we want to date we are free to do so. The only rule is that we are honest with the other person and we let them know about the arrangement that Eric and I have. If they are not comfortable with open relationships then we don’t get involved. If either Eric or I want to end it we can without any repercussions, drama or broken hearts. If Eric finds someone that he wants to get serious with I will back off and the same goes for him should I meet someone that I become serious about. I would never involve other people in this ‘love triangle’ of sorts unless they were willing participants and I’m very judicious about my sexual partners. I’ve only dated two other women since Eric and I got together. I haven’t been with any other man. I told you I’m really very much focused on my career right now and relationships only complicate things. Eric and Valerie are my closest friends and like you I don’t let a lot of people in, but I’m letting you in Bette. That’s the only reason I’m answering your question. Some people might say that I’m a heartbreaker but the fact is I’m a coward. I don’t want my heart broken so I run away before anyone can get close enough to do any damage. I’m just as vulnerable as the next guy. I dream of finding that forever love and happily ever after too. I want a special someone in my life that I willingly give my heart, soul, body and mind to and when I find that person I will commit myself to them but for now this is how I chose to live my life.”