She order us some Thai food from her favorite place and the food, damn it was good.  Never had Thai food that good.  Anyway, after dinner we went to her living room and sat on the couch close enough to be near but not too close.  We sat talking for a while when I decided that I needed to clear up some things.  So I told her, “Bette when I met you at you gallery I wasn’t expecting to be meeting someone that would change my life, but you have.   I wasn’t expecting to find someone that from the first moment I would feel so comfortable with, but I did.  I know that we’ve been spending time together but I haven’t really put my whole self into whatever ‘this’ is because I still am technically with Eric.  I want to date you Bette and I want to see where this goes.”  To which she said, “But T, I thought we were dating.”  I smiled and said that I guess she’s right we were dating but I technically still had Eric and I felt wrong fully committing myself to her when he was still a part of my life; then I told her that tomorrow I was having lunch with him.  I had to quick add on that the lunch was to break up with him because she got this look on her face of utter devastation.  I felt horrible that I could inflict that much pain on her but when it clicked in her mind that I said that I was going to break up with him the look on her face change to one of pure joy.  She moved closer to me, took my hand and said “T, I know that this is uncharted territory for you and I never what to make you uncomfortable but I want to see where ‘this’ leads us too.  But you have never been in a relationship with a woman before so I am stepping out of my own comfort zone and you take the lead.  I’m not going to push you too fast or do anything to make you uncomfortable and if I do, just tell me.  But let me say this, I have never felt like this before it’s like if I don’t see you or talk to you every day I feel like a part of me is missing.  And I know that could be saying too much but I only want to be honest with you.  You’ve changed me T.”