I don’t believe you lost your friendship with Dana. Yes it shifted, the relationship changed, but the friendship was always there. I just think you both found it difficult to adjust to that change. You both were used to the comfortable Alice/Dana friendship, to see that what you had was so much more. You had a love based on a long term friendship, a trust and the strongest connection to each other. So what if you couldn’t go and rant to her about your new girlfriend. You have a load of friends for that. You could trust Dana with your life and soul, that’s what was important. That Alice, is what friendship is all about an unbreakable trust. The cracks didn’t start to appear in your relationship because the lust died down. They appeared because you forgot what you had in each other and focused on what you hadn’t got. The trivial things in friendships, don’t matter. The love, trust and security in the relationship does.

You know me so well, because you really cant help who you fall in love with. Feelings are the one thing we cant control, because the tell us what we need to know. They were telling you that you loved Dana, that you’d found the love of your life. If you listened closer I believe they would have told you that you were loved by Dana. For whatever reason you didn’t, so your subconscious tried to get those feelings through your actions. Always looking for reasurrence that you were loved. Your head caused those actions not your heart. So if you follow your head you’ll end up and the same place you were all those years ago. Always remember that your heart doesn’t control your actions, your head does.

I have learnt to give Sarah her independence, the trust we have for each other was earned. Don’t for one second think it came easily or straight away. We had to work together in order to give each other what we needed. I may not have been all clingy and needy, but I’ve been jealous and insecure. Alice that’s natural, its how you work through things that show strength in a relationship. You need to take your problems and work through them together. If you do that, issues can be resolved and you can move on. Your trust in the other person increases and finally you realise that no matter what you can get through things together. Its not an easy road to get to, but when you work to get there the rewards are worth every struggle.

Well Alice, I think I’m going to leave you here and I hope I have given you some advice. I know what I want to tell you to do, but I cant. This decision is yours and yours alone. What I will say is listen carefully to your heart, keep an open mind and trust that you can do what’s right. I will be with you every step of the way, no matter what you decide.

Sarah and the gang have been asking about you too. They want me to tell you that they love you very much, as do I and that we want you to do what is best for you. Hurry home because I miss you.

All my love, Anna. *****