Daniel:  Yes.

Bette: I think that for the next two weeks, you and John David should not spend your usual weekends together. I would like for you to hang around for the weekend to be with your sister. Monday and Tuesday will be a school day for you, so, your time to be around your sister will be limited. Maybe I can get you two a tee time for Sunday afternoon at the public course here in Santa Monica. Suzanne will be here and they may need you to show them where things are in the dressing rooms, the laundry room and where to get something to drink. You might want to show them the shops at the beach or where the best place to walk. It may not be as much fun as being with John David, but you can resume your overnights the weekend following the wedding.

Daniel: I forgot that Angie will be home next weekend. Yeah, I can do that. And I would love to play some golf with her. Can’t wait to see her.

Bette: So, you are alright with this schedule change. No discussions, no objection?

Daniel:  No. I’ll see him at school. And I need to spend time with my sister. And I know the wedding is probably going to take up most of the following Saturday.

Bette: I want to talk to you about controlling your anger.  I know that you are going to get angry from time to time. And you need a method of working that anger out without lashing out at others particularly at your mom or me. First of all, I want you to understand what anger is. Anger is generally a surge of energy which you get when someone has insulted you as a person. It could be your appearance, your actions, the way you express yourself, your integrity or generally just who you are as a person.  Or you can get angry about others if they do not behave or do what you expect them to do. Sometimes anger is the result of not understanding all the facts and circumstances and will not resolve until you do get all the facts and circumstances. But then you may disagree with what the proper path forward or decision that is made on your behalf. Some people use the word disappointment.  That is what I consider a mild form of anger. Sometimes anger starts as disappointment but builds into a rage with the more analysis you do and factors you consider. And sometimes, there is a nasty little creature who comes in to your mind which I call payback. It happens that whatever caused you to be angry, you decide what you really need to do is give some payback. My advice to you is never, never go there. Try to put yourself in the other’s shoes and determine if there is a reasonable basis for what happened to make you angry. Then find some method to release the energy the anger has brought about. You need to go for a swim, go for a run, and see if it helps. I will get you a body punching bag, some boxing gloves and you can beat the stew or kick it until you are exhausted. Never turn your anger toward another human being. Releases it by doing something which will be beneficial to you. Next time we are at the beach, I’ll teach you how to you can scream and make yourself release anger, disappointment and resentment fairly quickly. It’s really effective and it will help you.  And if you feel like you need to yell at something and tell it how you feel but you really don’t want to do that to your mom and me or your friend. Just go inside the cabana. Take a picture of who you want to talk to and just go in there, close the door and yell, scream, pace and tell the picture everything you want to say. Hold nothing back. Get it all out. Just make sure you are alone. Then when you have said everything, you want to say, go have a swim, and take a shower and then arrange a real talk with that person. It will help you arrange your thoughts and get all the dirty words out of your conversation. And most of all it will relieve your anger. So, you will have a body bag when you want to hit something, a place to scream and yell, and other exercises to expend energy. Oh, and do not destroy our furniture. That is not acceptable.