Daniel:  Yeah, I understand. Do you think these will help?

Tina: I think it will help some. But in the end, your mind and your self-control will be your best measures of safety. The exercises Bette is asking you to try is to allow you to express your anger in a safe manner and so you do not harm anyone else or yourself. And please remember, we will always be available to talk to you about whatever is making you angry. We may not be able to do anything about what made you angry, but we might can give you some suggestions on how to look at it and how to live with the problem. But on the other hand, we may have the perfect solution, you never know until you explore the possibilities. And that is part of our responsibilities is to assist you to learn how to resolve problems.

Bette: Daniel, we do not know everything. But we have had between the two of us a lot of experiences with people in various situations and we have experiences in what works and what didn’t in various situations. And although every human we deal with in this life is a different personality and will respond differently depending on their own experiences, there is a range of expected responses which we can predict. Now we will not always be right, but you can bet that between the two of us, we will be right 80 percent of the time. And that kind of experience is available to you by just asking. So, when we advise you to allow the Wilkins the time they need to make up their minds, that is from our experience with other people and how we would want to be treated if our roles were reversed. Again, there is no guarantee that their decision will be the one you want to happen. But, if you choose something different, I can almost guarantee the chances of John David will accompany us to Scotland go down dramatically. In the meantime, put it out of your mind if you can.

Tina: We love you, Daniel. We want you to have friends and we want you to enjoy their company whenever it’s possible. But there are going to be times when it’s not possible. You have to accept that when it happens. We cannot have everything we want in life. It’s not possible and not even a reasonable expectation. So, enjoy the time you have with John David as it is. You know from what Mr. Wilkins told you, there is a strong possibility that they will be with us during spring break in Yellowstone.