Daniel: You would be okay with me screaming and hollering at your photographs?

Tina: As long as it remains between you and you. I have no problem at all. In private, you can be rude and vile as you wish as long as it is getting your anger out. If it makes it worse, well then, I would have a big problem with it. And I will not tolerate a real live version of rudeness or vileness or any expression which is not respectful of me as your mom.

Bette: Nor will I. We cannot control what you think, nor how you feel or how you respond to things. But we can give you hints and tips on how to express it without harming others. We would hope that at some point in your life that you could go from a rage to complete calm and control without having to run 5 miles. But that will take some experience on your part and some going through the process from time to time. People need to express their anger from time to time. But it does little good to express it when all it will do is make others angry as well. Managing your anger is something we all have to learn. If someone makes you angry. Rule Number 1…. Walk away. Do not just stand there and take it. There is a very big exception and that is if it is a person of authority such as a teacher, principal, police officer, judge or your parents. If it is another human, just walk away. Do not challenge others to a fight. And do not depend on others to come to your rescue. The time to control your temper is at that moment. You need to get to a safe place and then get angry. If you are in the presence of an authority figure, you should remain calm, follow instructions and do nothing that makes the situation worse. Respond with short and direct answers and do not show your irritation with the situation. There are law officers who will not respond as you would think. They will pull their gun and use it. There are good police officers and there are bad police officers and there is no way to tell the difference by the way they look, the way they talk or anything else. So, cooperate and do not resist them verbally or physically. Put yourself in a neutral frame of mind and just get through it. You are a person of color and you are male. You will probably have more run-ins with the police simply because of that. That is not fair, but it what happens in our society. So, you need to do what you can to keep yourself safe. And that is one of the reasons we want you to start to practice methods to control your anger. Does that make sense?